‘It’ will get easier to live with. It will no longer permeate your every breath, so much so you may even convince yourself you are DONE with it.
If you have suffered any kind of trauma you don’t need me tell you that you ain’t ever getting over it.
BUT YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO.
I realise that’s a contradiction.
What I mean is you have to learn ways to feel the emotions AND YET STILL DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE if you are SERIOUS about creating your dream life.
You know that you are supported by a powerful loving Universe and the impossible is possible but that ultimately the creation of your destiny is ALL DOWN TO YOU.
Which means you can actually DO SOMETHING about it.
You are NEVER too emotional, you just think you are.
You are NEVER stuck, you just think you are.
You are NEVER not good enough, you just think you are.
You are NEVER undeserving enough, you just think you are.
You are NEVER lacking clarity, you just think you are.
You just need to come into ALIGNMENT with your truth, no holds barred, no judgement, no BS, no comparison just TOTAL HONESTY with YOURSELF and LEARN to how to ‘GET OVER IT’ (at least in the moment) so you can actually DO THE WORK that needs to be done to make your dreams a reality.
I am not saying you need to get over it as if it never happened. Just to know that when it FEELS like it is happening right now; the emotions are intense, the sense of loss is consuming and the trauma is real, that YOU can and MUST do something WITH those emotions.
ACKNOWLEDGE them, take enough time to register the emotions and commit to giving them space now or later. In this way you can start to accept that you can FEEL them and still DO what you need to do in the moment.
To create your destiny you have to be able to move from state of overwhelm, fear, anxiety, or frustration and even rage and come back to what you NEED TO FEEL and DO in the moment. You can and must CHOOSE to feel in ways that will support your greatest work. You CAN choose to come back to flow.
This is NOT to push your emotions aside, this is to RELEASE their hold over you.
What I am learning is that no matter how intense my feelings come over me if I want to fulfil my purpose and passions, I simply CANNOT let my emotions STOP ME no matter how valid, raw and strong. At the same time I MUST NOT SUPPRESS them.
This is a difficult lesson to learn. But getting physical with emotional expression has become my saviour.
If I am unable to be in private to release an emotion in the moment, I make sure I do so asap. Even that sense of ownership puts me back in control in the here and now.
Since I no longer think that I should ‘get over it’ and allow myself to express what I feel, I no longer feel I am denying a part of who I am and my experience.
I feel accepted.
I feel whole.
I feel liberated.
I feel more capable and that my emotions are no longer in charge of my destiny.
I am also more able to be honest about my emotions with myself and others. in doing so I feel more connected, supported and free.
So give up trying to get over it and start approving and releasing it and then you are free to choose what you do want to feel and achieve without the uphill struggle, striving and burnout and PUT YOURSELF IN CHARGE OF YOUR DESTINY!
In this way you really can learn to ‘get over it’ without actually having to getting over it!
PS If you are READY to put yourself in charge of destiny and learn how to ‘get over it’ in the moment then JOIN The Dark Side Revolution (Private FB Group) – a safe and supportive space for women to express and release their overwhelming emotions and limiting beliefs that hold them back from their greatest work and their desires. I look forward to welcoming you on the other (dark) side. x