I needed to retreat from the world yesterday.
I needed to heal emotionally.
I had to feel, express and release.
Whilst I know that peace ONLY comes through feeling the pain, it is still of course GOING TO BE PAINFUL and it is therefore SO much easier to AVOID going there. BUT I know the futility of avoidance; it will only show up in some other way or area of my life, quite often as anger or resentment towards myself or those I love or paralysing fear and anxiety.
Since I have had nearly two decades practising the art of surrendering to my pain, I have learnt to give myself the time, space and support to do so and know that I will actually move through and feel free of the pain more quickly.
I have made it a priority. NOTHING is more important than my emotional healing when it is needed. If I can’t give myself the time in the moment then I change my plans ASAP because I have learnt that I cannot serve, create or give my whole-self to anything or anyone unless I do.
Once I have retreated in this way I know that I will come back with a deeper sense of peace, purpose and connection and way more energy. So there are many positive reasons to ‘go there’. But still it is a difficult choice to make.
There is much disagreement amongst psychologists as whether recalling a traumatic event is actually re-traumatising, but I am of the view that since the trauma has happened, I can’t pretend it didn’t or that I don’t feel anything around it anymore. Of course it isn’t as raw or in the forefront of my mind now but if for whatever reason the memories and emotions arise I will give them the time they need.
You have probably heard it said that ‘emotions are like at the layers of an onion’.
I have realised with regards to my father’s horrific fatal industrial accident, that a part of me had thought I was DONE with peeling back those emotional layers. But I know that we are never really done and that is OK. We don’t have to go searching for the pain to heal we simply must NOT AVOID or SUPPRESS when it arises. We have to be ready to deal with our next layer of healing.
I am. But….
It’s totally the wrong time! I’m too busy, I have ALOT to achieve right now!
But then again there is never a right time.
Emotions just arise.
When we allow ourselves to EXPRESS our emotions they will be released from our being more easily and swiftly and WE BECOME FREE and be more productive, disciplined and focussed. Our minds will MORE READILY ACCEPT NEW BELIEFS that will serve our biggest goals. Without an undercurrent of blocked emotional energy we are receptive to positive focus.
But bypassing our emotional expression by using positive focus to manage our most overwhelming emotions is like putting a band-aid over a dirty wound.
I have been told many people that they admire my strength and that they don’t know how they could possibly come through such a traumatic event.
But quite frankly I am no more special or different than you, if I can do it then so can you.
It does take work, support and courage but I promise you it takes more work NOT to. If you live life struggling to keep it all in, your suppressed emotions will seep into all areas of life like a disease.
But here is what I really want you to understand about WHY you need to express your overwhelming emotions, your Dark Side: If we are all capable of finding the inner strength TO SURRENDER TO OUR DARK SIDE when FORCED by circumstance, then just think about what might we achieve if we DECIDE to!
Do you see your potential?
Do you see that you are capable of creating your life consciously?
Do you see you can wire yourself for success by letting go of the emotional blocks and embracing new beliefs and behaviours based on what you want and expect?
The reality is this:
You ARE INFINITE POTENTIAL.
You were BORN with it.
You will DIE with it.
P.S. Want to be FREE OF THE EMOTIONS THAT BIND YOU? Want to HEAR YOUR TRUTH? Want to KNOW YOUR FULL POTENTIAL? Join The Dark Side Revolution (FB Group) – a safe and supportive space for women to EMBRACE THEIR AUTHENTIC SELF through honouring their emotions, their intuition, soul’s calling to PUT THEMSELVES IN THE DRIVER’S SEAT OF THEIR LIFE. i look forward to welcoming you on the other (dark) side. x