It’s not a small word because it is insignificant but more that we do NOT give it the significance it deserves.
It is essential for true and lasting transformation: it is essential for SMASHING THROUGH our blocks or limiting beliefs.
Forgiveness is a concept we all know is important and we think we do it through our thoughts, words and actions but, like our emotions and the experience of love and gratitude, forgiveness is something only truly understood by the heart not the head.
I have known this intellectually for a long time however I have recently I rediscovered the powerful role of forgiveness in the process of letting go. This shift in my awareness is both subtle yet profound.
In my last blog (The Big F-Word) I said that befriending and expressing Fear (or any overwhelming emotion) is the key to transformation. It is, but this must be followed by forgiveness.
Expression is the ACTION of letting go.
Forgiveness is the RELEASE.
It’s what sets our attachment to the emotion and memories FREE.
Many people practise forgiveness as a means to manage emotions in the moment. This is very effective and can help them overcome blocks but I believe that unconsciously there are strong feelings being suppressed. Its like putting a band-aid on without cleaning the wound.
I have found it’s the process of Emotional Expression followed by Forgiveness that is the most transformative at getting to the root cause to ultimately release the our most stubborn and hidden blocks.
So what does forgiveness really mean?
I like to think of myself as a forgiving person in that I don’t hold a grudge. I have always known that would just eat away at me. I will try to find a way to reconcile the situation whether with the person directly, the situation or myself.
However forgiveness is more than that.
Forgiveness is to truly love and accept YOURSELF regardless of who or what has caused you suffering, even if that’s you. You cannot truly love yourself if you have not forgiven another and you cannot truly forgive another unless you truly love yourself :).
I have practised expression and forgiveness in the past; towards the companies and individuals involved in my father’s fatal and horrific industrial accident. I no longer feel anger when I think about the gross negligence and catalogue of errors; what I actually feel is LOVE.
I am no saint! It has been a LONG process or grief and trauma. It was a full-time job for 6 months and then a second job for many long years after that. I committed myself to feeling the pain knowing that was only true way out. There were countless times I wasn’t sure how to find my way out from the visions, thoughts and feelings that tormented me and many times I had to run away from the feelings. But gradually by expressing those feelings over and over again and again and again, I was able to reach a place of forgiveness in my heart. That said I am aware that there will always be deeper layers that will come to the surface to be healed through expression and forgiveness as I seek to develop further.
What I learnt from that horrific experience is that only when you fully experience the emotions around your suffering you will be ready to then forgive and truly LET GO.
When we forgive we open ourselves up to take ACTION (move forward) and RECEIVE (our desires) without repelling them in some unconscious way.
The practise of forgiveness is therefore absolutely essential for my PerMISSION ME process. To allow me to fully express my true self I need to fully express my emotions and forgiveness to let go. I cannot be, do, have or feel what I desire in life until I do.
If you are on your journey of PerMISSON YOU, you too need to take on the quest of LETTING GO through expression and forgiveness.
Are you ready to blast through the old blocks and limiting beliefs and TRANSFORM/UP-LEVEL/MOVE FORWARD/RISE?
Whose with me?
P.S. If you would like to explore the practise of forgiveness together then please request to join my Facebook group The Dark Side Revolution – it’s a Private space for WOMEN ONLY to embrace and release their emotions and limiting beliefs in a safe environment. I look forward to welcoming you on the other (dark) side. x