I walk my talk.
I admire that in others. I respect that in myself. It’s just the way I do things. It’s authentic. It’s important to me.?? However I can often meet resistance. Like right now writing this.
What is the resistance all about?
Fear of it being crap, fear of being judged, fear of being found out…. BIG YAWN!!!! I have covered this ground before and many many times before that.
But the reality is this stuff does keep coming up over and over.
It’s what we do about it that matters.
Some fears can be politely told to step aside or shouted at (like those above – I am SO over them now).
But some fears (like those above because I am not really over them!) feel too big, too strong, too in control.
It is then that I talk my walk: I TELL MYSELF WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE. That this fear needs to be HEARD. That this fear needs to be FELT. That this fear needs to EXPERIENCED. I remind myself that I AM BRAVE enough to face them.
Then I THINK I’m done.
No no no no no no no! NO. Do not stop there talking your walk!
Now is the time to walk your talk!
Get up and get to it! DO what you know to do. And if you don’t know what to do then get support. But don’t kid yourself that just by THINKING ABOUT WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE MEANS THAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY DONE!
This is the problem with using logic to try to understand and process emotions. The feeling dissipates (you think anyway) along with the need to process it. But where does it actually go?
Emotions are chemicals which affect change on our bodies’ cells transiently but if suppressed, permanently.
To fully RELEASE an emotion, you need to FEEL it or you are as good as saying “I’ll carry this around and pretend it’s not there until the next time I’m triggered and add that to the bag too”.
But how? How can you really feel an emotion that has past and get back in touch with it enough to release it?
You THINK about it.
Yes, you get to think now! Intentional thinking; going with the story, the drama. Allow it to become present and allow the feelings to arise with the sole purpose of EXPRESSING them.
There isn’t a feeling too overwhelming that you can’t shout, scream, bash, run, kick, wail or cry OUT (in a safe environment).
If it feels too much. It is. Feel that. Express that. Release that.
You’re doing it again. ?
Talking your walk.
Oh yeah. Best get walking then…..
P.S. If you would like some support walking with your overwhelming emotions then join The Dark Side Revolution (closed FB group) – safe a supportive group for women to embrace and face all that holds them back from becoming who they truly are. I look forward to welcoming you on the other (dark) side. x