Yesterday I made big decision. It feels right but also VERY scary.
It should! It does.
So I am going to face the ‘reality; the logic, my fears and concerns HEAD ON. In fact I am inviting my Dark Side in for tea! I am going to have a conversation with her and hear her out. She can tell me all her fears and doubts, frustrations and limitations. I going to allow her to get as emotional as she needs to (and she WILL need to since she is made up of emotions).
I am going to thank her for all she does to protect me. I know she is trying to keep me safe; to not fail or make a fool of myself and be so vulnerable.
I am GRATEFUL to her for all that she does to serve me but I will let her know that……
…. I AM IN CHARGE.
I have her back, she does not need to shoulder the burden. It is safe for her to trust me and our inner knowing so we can move forward with our big commitments and desires. I will let her know that it is OK for her to feel afraid, angry, anxious, stressed and total overwhelm, in fact I NEED her to feel her emotion in this way so she can express them and LET THEM GO.
It is safe for her to do so.
I am here.
She doesn’t have to worry about getting lost in a downward spiral of overwhelming emotions by the act of indulging in the feelings. I will create the space for her feelings to be heard and provide her with the tools she needs to release them. That is my responsibility. I will allow her to feel and I wont try to stop her but I will support her and show her a way out.
I will not judge her screaming, swearing, bashing, punching, wailing, bawling nor will I leave her feeling overwhelmed with anxiety, stress, sadness.
I definitely will not leave her feeling numb inside.
I know it can be very scary to feel the intensity of these feelings (and perhaps even more scary to feel numb) and of course I will feel them all with her in the moment but we can both feel empowered by knowing WHAT to do with them.
What I am talking about here is catharsis therapy and PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) techniques. You don’t have to have experienced past trauma to need to do these exercises or benefit from them. They are simple, quick and effective. They can be done anywhere, though you may prefer some privacy! They are powerful when practised with intention but the ultimate result of shifting emotions from the body can be achieved by simply carrying out the specific exercises when you feel a particular emotion arise (or as soon as possible).
If you’re angry – have a tantrum
If your grieving – wail
If you’re anxious – shake it out
There are many ways to do this but it only takes a minimum of 2 minutes to shift the emotion from the body which will in turn allow the brain to know its safe.
I can promise you it is truly LIBERATING!
What a way to feel! Just imagine what you can create in your life from THIS place!.
So I encourage you to learn the techniques, get the cupcakes ready and invite your Dark Side to tea.
Together you can realise your full potential.
P.S. If you would like to have support to embrace your overwhelming emotions then join The Dark Side Revolution (Closed FB Group) – a safe and supportive space for women to feel, express and release all that holds them back from their full potential. A challenge is coming to get you started…. I look forward to welcoming to the other (dark) side. x
P.P.S. If you need support to open yourself up your full potential then PerMISSION YOU – my 12 week 1:1 intensive programme could be for you. There are only a few spaces available (it is intense!) for those committed to doing the work. Message me for more details on FB or firstname.lastname@example.org.