LOVE. The infinite power of love.
When I talk about your infinite potential this is what I really mean.
LOVE is INFINITE. LOVE is POWERFUL. LOVE is the only force that will change the world.
Until we live with love in our hearts for ourselves, learn to make this our responsibility and priority we cannot teach our children (whether our own or the world’s) to do the same, we cannot soften the hardened hearts that exist in the world.
Everyone has endless capacity for love.
The world has the capacity to be ruled by love.
We are fighting many wars but the real war is the one within us all. We need to become aware that however seemingly insignificant our unaccepting of any part of ourself is that it is contributing to the unrest of the planet.
I realise this may seem extreme, unrealistic or idealistic view point but let me explain.
Everything is energy. What we give out we receive. What we CONTAIN we give out therefore what we contain we also RECEIVE. When we deny any part of ourself our internal environment signifies is that we are not good enough. This unrest means our brains are on high alert which directly impact our ACTIONS and RESPONSES to the world around us.
When we feel at peace within we RESPOND. When we feel unrest within we REACT.
REACTION results in fighting. Reaction is based on FEAR.
RESPONDING results in change. Responding is based on LOVE.
There is a clear distinction: YOU CANNOT REACT and reach LOVE. It is impossible.
LOVE cannot simply be the goal. LOVE MUST BE THE ACTION.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS THE ANSWER.
Until we truly UNDERSTAND, ACCEPT and LOVE OURSELVES for ALL WE ARE; our light AND our dark, we DO NOT have the capacity to love another UNCONDITIONALLY.
As mothers this is difficult to understand. Surely we love our children unconditionally all the time?
Yes our love for them is strong deep and powerful and we would do ANYTHING to protect them. In addition to keeping them safe what we really desire is that they may see their beauty and potential and love themselves for who they are.
In the presence of unconditional love they will.
It is the absence of unconditional love that will question their value
How do you unconditionally love another when they exhibit negative behaviours that threaten our sense of control or our physical, emotional or mental wellbeing?
I will use the example of children because for most of us have greater capacity to love our children unconditionally more than anyone else.
When our children react in ways we don’t like it is hard not to take it personally. It is hard not to want to control. We feel threatened. It is hard not to exert our control through punitive means of denial. We can feel there is NO alternative.
We are in SURVIVAL MODE on HIGH ALERT and REACTION is imminent. This is why you can scream and shout at your kids EVEN THOUGH you LOVE THEM.
To LOVE our child unconditionally through the unwanted behaviours they show requires us to VALIDATE their OVERWHELMING EMOTIONS that underlie their actions, whilst of course not condoning the unwanted behaviour.
BUT to have the capacity to validate their feelings WE NEED TO UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE OURSELVES.
Can you honestly say you LOVE yourself when you are angry, anxious, afraid?
How do you handle these emotions when they become too much? React or respond?
Do you TRULY HONOUR and FORGIVE yourself for your past mistakes?
Have you come to APPROVE of your past experiences to heal your emotional wounds?
When we come from a place of SELF-LOVE and APPROVAL for ALL WE ARE and ALL WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH we can hold the space for others to do the same be it our children, our family and friends, a stranger or organisation.
It all starts within us.
We MUST learn to LOVE the part of ourselves we would rather hide; our DARK SIDE and all the emotions and experiences it protects.
We must learn to NUTURE IT and HONOUR IT, not to banish, ignore or reprimand it.
We must LEARN how to SUPPORT it so it can be VALIDATED and EXPRESSED in safe and healthy ways.
We must LEARN how to MANAGE our unwanted REACTIVE BEHAVIOURS by regulating the underlying emotions.
To BRING US TO OUR LIGHT it IS essential that we DO NOT DENY OUR DARK. We must SEE and HEAR our Dark Side to be capable of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
By honouring the dark in ourselves we soften our heart; we allow our dark to be integrated into our whole being and be healed by our light.
When we are WHOLE, we ARE PURE LOVE and FEAR can no longer exist in its presence.
When we are whole we OWN OUR POWER and have the capacity to UNDERSTAND, RESPOND and TRANSFORM. We have the capacity for UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
THE WORLD NEEDS RESPONDERS.
TO RESPOND REQUIRES UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
AS WOMEN WE CAN SHOW THE WORLD THE WAY TO AND OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
LOVE IS THE START, THE MIDDLE AND THE END.
LOVE IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER.
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